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LEARN HOW TO MAKE THE LOVE YOU CRAVE.
Great friend. Caring father. Labor-sharer at home. Kind heart. Hot lover.
A lot of men fit most of these except that last one. Guys determined to be kind, feminist beings definitely make great life partners.
But often they wind up in my coaching practice saying “everything’s great between us except the sex.” And the same thing happened in my own marriage. Here are 3 reasons good guys often aren’t great lovers once they’re married:
The things that nourish us are coded into our bodies as yearnings, so that we’ll go after them. Our bodies won’t leave us alone until we have what they need. But if we’re really good at ignoring those signals, they’ll go underground and start messing with us until they get our attention. Let’s not let it come to that. Let’s listen well to our own yearnings.
You haven’t been hearing your wife. I didn’t hear mine until it was too late. Please let my loss prevent yours. I’d give anything to be back in your shoes. Don’t waste your opportunity.
The very fact that she’s talking to you about what she wants tells us it's been rough for her for a long, long time.
I adore men. It breaks my heart that women so misunderstand you. And it pisses me off that so many of the good things that have happened for (at least some) women in the past 50 years have created such funky dynamics between empowered women and the good guys who love them. We emasculate you and ask you to contort yourselves in so many ways. Not today, my darlings. The following list of invitations is my way of calling you forward in all your masculine glory.
